Things We Do that Stress Dogs Out Part 1

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Stress is something humans often feel. In fact, most of us probably feel stress every day. For this reason, humans tend to think we have the monopoly on stress. After all, what does a dog have to feel stressed about right? They have a home, meals that come every day, a bed to lie in and someone to play with them, all for free. Sounds like a stress-free life to us. However, dogs do feel stress. And, often, without meaning to, we are the cause of that stress. In this first part, we look at things we do when training or working with our dog that can cause stress.

Changing the Rules

Dogs are creatures of habit and do best with routine. Notice how your dog always knows when it’s time for dinner or go on their potty walk? A huge stressor in training comes from when we change the rules. Maybe you decide your dog is allowed to sit on the couch, but then family comes over and you decide you don’t want him on the couch that day, so you yell at him to get off. The next day, you are inviting him up on the couch. And then the week after that, you decide he shouldn’t be on the couch. Inconsistencies like this cause stress – your dog never knows what he is allowed or not allowed to do.

Imagine being told to perform a task at work without being given any rules? You do the job, every day, but sometimes your boss yells as you that’s it’s wrong. And sometimes he doesn’t. But you don’t know why it’s wrong. You can see where the stress of not understanding the rules comes into play. And while you can go and ask your boss what is going on and what is the right way, your dog can’t ask you. Decide on the rules before you start training and keep them the same. (You will also find training much easier this way!)

Changing the Cues

In the same vein as changing the rules, changing the cues is also stressful to a dog. Remember, they do not speak English. It takes a dog a long time to figure out that noise you are making is related to him doing or not doing a certain behavior. The most common example of this is Down and Off. Let’s say you use Down when you are wanting your dog to stop jumping up, but then start saying Off, and expect your dog to stop jumping, you are going to have a very confused dog. Later, you say Down and expect your dog to do a lie down. Now he is even more confused. And Stressed.

What happens if you say something different but expect the same result? You get frustrated, maybe start repeating it, raising your voice, while your dog’s stress level raises as he frantically tries to figure out what you are expecting him to do. Pick cues your entire family can remember and keep them the same. Putting the list on the fridge is a great way to ensure consistency!

Restricting Instincts and Stress

As an animal, your dog has instincts that are born into her. Things like sniffing, chasing, barking, and chewing – these are “dog” things. It’s in their nature. Unfortunately, these are the very things we humans try and stop our dogs from doing, which can cause stress. While we do have to train our dogs to not bark at everything, or to chase the cat, giving them outlets for these instincts is important to have a stress-free dog that is not destructive. Take him or her out on walks where you allow him to sniff (you can even put it on a cue so he knows when it’s okay to take the lead and go where his nose goes). Let him chase a Frisbee and give him a meaty bone to chew on. Otherwise, your stressed out and bored dog will find his own outlets….and that will cause you stress.

Pulling on Leash

We teach our dogs to not pull on the leash, but then we do it ourselves. Imagine someone having you by the wrist, or the neck, and constantly tugging at you. Now imagine you are trying to find a spot to go to the bathroom while they are doing it! Yes, this will definitely cause stress. Instead, get your dog’s attention if you need to move on by saying her name or a cue like “Let’s Go.” Remember dog’s like rules and consistency. If he can’t pull, neither can you.

Yelling No

Humans love the word “No.” In fact, for many children it’s one of the first words they learn. However, to a dog, a human yelling No, body bent over them, often pointing a finger, is a stress-inducing action that gives the dog no clear idea of why we are doing it. Instead, it triggers a stress response that humans mistake for the "guilty dog" look, making us think our dog knows what it did wrong. So, we use No more. The reality is that the guilty dog look is a HUGE stress signal made up of several fear/anxiety signals and it’s caused by what you are doing, not by whatever your dog was doing to cause you to react.

Instead, if you see your dog doing inappropriate behavior, make sure it’s not being reinforced (say being petted when jumping up or getting food off the counter) and then redirect your dog to a behavior that does get reinforced – for example asking for a lie down and then petting them or asking for a sit stay while you eat and then giving them praise or their own dinner as a reward. Dogs are opportunists and repeat behaviors that get them what they want. You can completely remove the stress-inducing No from your relationship with your dog and actually have a better-behaved canine because of it.

It’s important to note that not all of these are stress triggers for every dog – just like humans, each dog has their own stressors. However, realizing that stress could be there is a good first step. Pay attention to your dog’s body language and make changes to your routine if you notice the following stress/fear/anxiety signals:

· Ears out and/or back (depending on their natural position)

· "whale eye" (showing the whites of their eyes)

· Bulged out eye

· Cowering and/or shaking

· Panting

· Licking the lips

· Furrowed brows

· Slow movements

· Yawning

· Won’t eat

· Pacing

· Hypervigilant (looking in many directions at once)

If you see your dog doing any of these, it’s time to change up your habits to make your dog more comfortable, which will result in a better relationship with him.

Jan Chamberlin

Hi Rob, great article. I am stressed, so my dog must be stressed too!
It is difficult as I have just got her and she is 3. I don’t know her cues, although I have asked. All I know is uh arr. she is pulling leash especially when something takes her attention, chasing cats and trying to chase anything else moving and now being a so called trained dog is ignoring my commands sometimes. I was told she is totally trained by her previous owner who is a breeder.


Confused owner and dog

RobertJan Chamberlin

Hi Jan I think a good article to read regarding training is this one ==>


Great info Rob 👍little changes makes for a happy dog and happy owner 😊🐕🐶👧


Great info Rob 👍little changes makes for a happy dog and happy owner 😊🐕🐶👧

Alison Vigne

the biggest stressor for the dog and me is her determined licking of the kitchen floor. Great, long, greasy kisses at the base of the cupboards, which leaves permanent marks on the specialised gloss. The rooms are open plan. I keep it simple with "no licking" which she mostly ignores. I move her away and she is back immediately. I will try "no more"


Makes so much sense. Passing on to the rest of the family. Thank you.

Jenny Ritter

Excellent article, Robert! Many thanks for the detailed information and advice. Just one question: why do both our dogs just sit and stare at me or my husband on occasions? One does a brilliant job of it and can stare us down without blinking. The other isn’t quite so bad. However, it does feel like they put you in the spot!

Look forward to more great articles!!

Jackie Wilson

Hi. I believe my dog is very stressed and anxious and that he picks this up particularly from me. We have what Is a very stressful situation due to illnesses in the household And have had for a long time. Now he has a bad allergy which we thought was caused by our lawn but we have changed the lawn. This allergy causes him to scratch particularly under arms and legs it is very upsetting for him and me do you think that his anxiety is the cause and can something be done to help him. Regards Jackie Wilson

RobertJackie Wilson

Hi Jackie, it would be hard to diagnose a dog from this end of a computer but diet is a good start for itchy dogs. If you need help please email me at [email protected] and ask for the itchy skin guide and we can go from there.

Linda Huckauff

When I tell my mini Schnauzer off, she ‘talks’ back to me and usually grabs a toy and shakes it vigorously :) Good advice about consistency in commands. Any one out there can understand ‘dog speak’? 😂

Linda Huckauff

When I tell my mini Schnauzer off, she ‘talks’ back to me and usually grabs a toy and shakes it vigorously :) Good advice about consistency in commands. Any one out there can understand ‘dog speak’? 😂


Thank you Robert for teaching me to understand my dog's behaviours and my own in training him.


You write such great articles should write a book! I’d buy it! (The only thing I have trouble with is fasting the dog one day per week. I agree with the theory, but I just can’t do!).


Thank you Jackie, for the fasting you could try halving a meal instead of totally removing it.


Interesting, especially the Guilty Dog Look really being stress indicators.

Bilinda Law-Morley

Thank you for an interesting, thought provoking article. I know I’ve been guilty of thinking MY dog is super intelligent and intuitive so he’s able to cope with different cue words for actions. I’ve taken your article on board, and will try to modify MY behaviour, rather than his. Thanks again.

Stuart Holloway

Very interesting and valuable advice. Thank you.

GarryStuart Holloway

Thanks, Robert

Great advice

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Bev Bowie

Thanks I have relocated and moved into a lot of different homes of friends while Moving interstate. I have two small dogs and I found that they seemed distressed what with so many others telling them I don’t do that the looked sad all the time. We are slowly getting there with more patience and reinforcement they are starting to relax

Mary Jakovljevic

Dear Rob
Concise and to the point
Much appreciated
Regards Mary